Marriage

Pride Month 2026 began with some bracing news for the LGBTQIA+ movement. According to Gallup’s latest annual survey, public support for same-sex marriage, the morality of homosexual conduct, and transgenderism has declined significantly.

Support for same-sex marriage has fallen six percentage points from its high point in 2022 and 2023. The percentage of Americans who believe same-sex sexual behavior is morally acceptable has dropped to 62%, its lowest level since 2016, the year after the Supreme Court’s decision in Obergefell v. Hodges forced states to recognize same-sex marriages. The most dramatic shift, however, has come on transgenderism. The percentage of Americans who view attempting to change one’s sex as morally acceptable has declined eight percentage points since 2021 and now stands at just 38%.

Why is this happening? After all, major social changes have historically become more accepted over time, not less. Americans are increasingly reconsidering what they were told because they have now lived with the results. The experiment is no longer theoretical. It has become personal.

Take interracial marriage. In 1965, 48% of Americans favored state laws banning interracial marriage. Two years later, the Supreme Court unanimously ruled in Loving v. Virginia that such laws were unconstitutional because they amounted to “invidious racial discrimination.” While controversial in its day, that decision did not redefine the God-given meaning of marriage. Rather, it affirmed the complementarian nature of marriage. As Americans witnessed the results, public acceptance steadily grew. Today, according to Gallup, support for interracial marriage has reached a record high of 94%.

Clearly, that is not what has happened with same-sex marriage and the broader sexual ideology promoted during Pride Month.

Those of us who fought to preserve the natural and biblical understanding of marriage were often dismissed when we warned that redefining marriage would have consequences reaching far beyond marriage licenses. I remember having a discussion over lunch with the staff of a CNN primetime program, when one of the producers, who was in a same-sex relationship, asked me, “How does my relationship affect your marriage?”

“It doesn’t affect my marriage,” I replied. “But it will affect our culture. It will affect what my children are taught in school. It will normalize something that God’s word teaches is contrary to His design.”

That was always the point. The debate was never about its impact on my marriage. It was about the impact it would have in our schools, our laws, our institutions, and ultimately in the lives of the next generation.

Time could have proved those concerns unfounded. The promise of “marriage equality” was that it was simply about allowing committed same-sex couples to formalize their relationships. Americans were assured that nothing else would change.

But that is not what happened.

More than a decade after the Supreme Court’s 5-4 decision in Obergefell, Americans are no longer evaluating promises, they are evaluating results. They are changing their minds not because someone crafted a better political argument, but because they have witnessed consequences many were assured would never come.

They have seen:

• Pride parades in major cities where public nudity and sexually explicit displays are celebrated in full view of families and children;
• Major corporations, universities, and professional sports organizations pressuring employees and athletes to affirm an ever-expanding list of sexual identities;
• Schools and entertainment normalizing gender ideology for children while Gallup reports that the percentage of Americans identifying as LGBTQ has more than doubled since 2012;
• A growing commercial surrogacy industry that intentionally deprives children of either their mother, their father, or both;
• Marriage continuing its long decline while birth rates fall to historic lows.

Perhaps nowhere have those consequences become more visible than in the rise of transgender ideology.

The “T” in the LGBTQ acronym has been used to justify policies that would have been unimaginable just a decade ago. Young children are told they can decide whether they are boys or girls because sex is merely “assigned at birth.” Teenagers are given puberty blockers that interrupt normal development. Radical surgeries with lifelong consequences are carried out on minors and young adults. Schools across the country facilitate gender transitions while keeping parents in the dark.

These are not isolated incidents. Americans have also watched biological males enter girls’ locker rooms, compete in girls’ sports, and gain access to spaces long reserved for women. Millions of Americans are now connecting the dots. They are seeing the fruit of abandoning God’s design for marriage, family, and the two sexes. Once marriage is detached from the complementary union of man and woman, it becomes increasingly difficult to explain why mothers and fathers matter, why men and women are different, or why children have a right to both.

As we mark the 11th anniversary of Obergefell, Americans are no longer arguing over predictions; they are judging outcomes. They have watched the promises of marriage redefinition play out in their schools, businesses, athletic competitions, churches, and families.

Increasingly, the American people are rendering their own verdict. The great experiment of redefining marriage and reinventing the family has produced its results. Americans are no longer judging promises — they are judging outcomes. The debate over the Sexual Revolution is no longer about its promises. It is about its consequences.

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Let me begin by saying that marriage is noble, honorable, and beautiful. It is biblical. It is foundational to functioning societies. God created marriage and loves it. The very concept of marriage is reflective of His plan of redemption for us: Jesus, the bridegroom, coming for and uniting with His bride, the Church.

But the concept was never the point. That is, when we, the Church, prioritize marriage over complete love and obedience to God, we miss the point (Christ Himself) and accidentally create an idol.

In the young, Christian conservative movement right now, the popular mantra is, “Just get married!” And that’s great! If it is the Lord’s will for you to get married to a specific person He’s placed in your life, at a specific time. If building a family is how He’s calling you to build His Kingdom in this season, then yes! Get married. That’s beautiful.

The reality is that this rally cry, “Just get married!” often echoes through rooms full of young, Christian women who desperately want to get married. The message may be novel or challenging in secular spaces, but you don’t have to tell most Christian women twice–that’s all they want.

And that’s the problem. 

I interact with many, many Christian women ages 18-35 (more or less) who want nothing more than to get married. 

But I want them to want so much more than that: I want them to want to serve God, wholeheartedly, wherever He has them. Married or not married, I want them to be desperate to be at the feet of Jesus; not desperate for a husband.

If that seems simple, unfortunately, it’s not. All my life, I’ve been subliminally taught in Christian circles that the highest good I can achieve as a Christian woman is to be a wife and mother–again, both very beautiful, godly roles.

But when marriage became the chief aim of my life, I lost sight of Jesus.

I was so focused on marriage that I forgot to focus on my Savior in whatever He had for me–and my life might have looked very different if He hadn’t rescued me from my own desire that, when prioritized over Him, were beautiful dreams I had let become ugly idols.

As a 25-year-old who grew up in the church, my game plan from a very early age was to graduate high school, graduate college, get married to my high school sweetheart, have babies, get a dog, a house, and voilà! The American Dream. I would finally be fulfilled then, just like they said.

It was a good plan. But it wasn’t God’s plan for my life–not just like that, anyway.

At the end of 2020, God redirected the trajectory of my entire life, calling me into ministry at the intersection of faith, culture, and politics (what became my life’s work at Counteract USA), and subsequently called me to break up with my high school sweetheart of five and a half years–a nice, Christian guy.

It was unfathomable, and I didn’t want to do it. As a 20-year-old Christian woman I thought I was throwing everything away if I broke up with the guy I planned to marry. I was (and am) so young, but it really felt like the end of the world.

I made every excuse I could to God. I bargained. I pleaded. I wanted to be married. I knew God was calling me into this ministry of faith, culture, and politics, and I realized that my boyfriend wasn’t called into that same ministry… But I wanted both. To have my cake and eat it, too.

But I learned the hard way that when you’re called to Nineveh, you can only sail on ships to Tarsus for so long before things really get miserable and you have to abandon ship.

So I abandoned ship. I surrendered: I broke up with my boyfriend, switched my major, and entered into 2021 with a completely blank slate. I was in a “Here I am, Lord. Send me” season.

And it was in this season that God began to inaugurate me into my calling. When I surrendered (painfully, and through many, many tears) my relationship with my boyfriend to the Lord, my focus reoriented on Him, and I was able to discern that He was calling me to equip my generation of Christians to apply Biblical truth to cultural and political conversations.

Six months after my breakup, God gave me the vision for the ministry that has become my passion, and Counteract USA was born.

Nearly five years later, I have witnessed countless miracles, where God has emboldened a Gen Z Christian in their faith, called a believer to get involved in politics, or encouraged a young adult to share the gospel at their local coffee shop through this ministry. It’s humbling. I am in awe of the Holy Spirit’s work.

And I know I wouldn’t have the front row seat to this that I do today if I had “just” married my high school sweetheart.

I’m 25 now. And I hope to be married one day–but I want to marry someone I’m on-mission with, whether my mission continues to Counteract USA or my home becomes my mission field.

In my admittedly limited experience, the Lord has taught me that as much as I value the gift of marriage and family, I must be vigilant to ensure that I am rightly ordering my affections, seeking the will of God over even my most righteous desires.

Marriage is beautiful, but it isn’t everything. 

I want to want Jesus over everything, and encourage others to do the same–because He is all in all. He is everything.